I'm beginning to wonder if I'm not deeply and irrevocably flawed, or maybe just an enormous jerk or something.
I go onto Facebook every day. I'm pretty sure that the cool kids don't do that, but I'm not going to lie about it. I get bored and I want to pretend I'm hanging out with other human beings, so I go on Facebook and see what everyone is doing. Most of the time I see the requisite "Oh, my kids are awesome" or "Look at this place I visited! My vacations are fantastic!" I'm OK with that. That's what Facebook is for: mostly living vicariously through people we barely remember from high school and pretending like we talk to our actual IRL friends more than we really do. That's OK! It's good we have at least that little bit of communication with people these days!
Occasionally, though, I come across these...I dunno...odes (for want of a better word) to people from their family members/significant others in the status updates and sometimes it makes me incredibly uncomfortable. Now, let me be specific: It isn't across the board uncomfortable. Like when someone dies, or is born, or if there is some kind of really special/significant thing that happens, I'm fine. There is a time and place for holding someone up, and I recognize those things. Mostly it's just the over the top birthday wishes, or mother's and father's day essays, or (and this one is the absolute worst to me) the husbands or wives getting on there and just, oh dear God, gooping the place up with their anniversary wishes, or birthday wishes, or *shudder* just the "oh how wonderful you are" mess that people do. You know, feeeeeeeeeeeelings. It's gross. It makes me feel gross. I actually have to scroll past those things really fast because I become physically uncomfortable knowing that it is just out there for everyone to read. It's like when you're watching a movie with your parents and a particularly graphic sex scene pops up, and you know that you want to run screaming from the room, but you can't because that would mean acknowledging it, and the last thing you want to do is react, so you just sit there until the scene is over, wishing you were dead instead of watching this movie with your parents? That feeling.
Now, before anyone accuses me of jealousy or sour grapes, I assure you, that isn't true. If Steve, or anyone else (you know, one of my various secret admirers), got on Facebook and said goopy, personal things about me in such a public forum, I might actually die of embarrassment. I'd feel my face catch on fire and I'd probably fall into a puddle of boiling, writhing, discomfort. I don't want that. If you love me and want me to know, just tell me. Do it in person, over the phone, or in a letter. I even accept YouTube videos set on Private. I'll probably still be embarrassed (pleased, but embarrassed because I have a very hard time taking compliments) but I'd be OK with that. Of course, if I die or something like that, you have my permission to say whatever you want about me on Facebook. Heck, take out a billboard.
I know this is kind of weird and out of nowhere, but I just saw something so personal on Facebook from one spouse to another that I feel like I need a bath. It also bothered me enough that it made me write this.
That is all. Carry on with your day.