Thursday, August 30, 2012


Have you ever been in a position where you had the chance to do a nice thing for someone, maybe even a great thing, but you knew if you did it, it would be a huge mistake?

I wish I could be specific, because I'd love to get some actual feedback from any of you who'd care to give me some, but I can't because it involves someone else's life and business and I have no right to pick it apart even on this insignificant blog.  I'll be as general as possible.

A friend of mine recently sent me an email asking for help. I was torn between wanting to help them and not wanting to disrupt my life for them (which would be the result of doing this favor.) I decided that I am not going to help this person, even though technically I am capable of doing it, because I have since learned that my "friend" is a liar, a thief, and someone who won't take responsibility for their own actions.  I don't want to disrupt my own life for someone who would probably turn on me later.

It probably doesn't sound like much of a dilemma, I guess, but there is a part of me that feels so guilty for not immediately agreeing to help.  Isn't that what we are supposed to do?  Help those that can't help themselves?  In this case I'm probably going to be in a position to watch this person self destruct in a big way because I refused to help them, but I can't make myself responsible for every person with a sob story, right? I don't want to be a sucker, and I know that's what I'd be if I gave in.

Anyways, I've made up my mind that I'm going to have to let this person fend for themselves, but it doesn't make me feel very good inside.  I know it's the right decision, but it still makes me feel rotten.

I guess I just needed to vent.  

1 comment:

Jordan said...

Oh, I don't know...sometimes the best help we can offer is just letting someone self destruct. Unless we are always going to be around to pick up pieces or "fix" things, it's best if we let a lesson or two be the hard kind! I feel your pain...